Couples

Meet Katelyn!

Hello and Welcome!!

I am so excited to be a part of the GT Therapy Group! I wanted to share a little bit of who I am, where I come from, and how I can help you through your journey. My name is Katelyn Williams and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Board Certified Counselor (NCC). I usually have a little trouble explaining where I am from (mostly because my family moved several times when I was a kid), but I was born in Yakima, Washington, and I claim San Antonio as my “childhood home” for all intents and purposes😊 I have lived in Austin for over 10 years, and love getting to enjoy the live music and natural beauty this city has to offer!

As a teenager, I thought I was destined for Hollywood, but after an internship at a Modeling and Casting Agency, I realized that I had a desire to help people, that went beyond getting them a temporary job. I wanted a lasting effect that gave people the skills they needed to be successful, across their lifespan. I had spent so much time focusing on the outward display of emotion from actors, but wanted to understand the inner workings of people and their feelings.

So after turning down a full time position in the entertainment business, I attended Texas State University and majored in Psychology with a minor in Sociology. After learning about Texas State’s CACREP counseling program, I knew I wanted to stick around to complete my MA in Professional Counseling. With my Master’s Degree in hand, and with the guidance of my professors and advisors in Texas State’s Professional Counseling Program, I decided to accept a job in School Counseling, and work with some of our most vulnerable populations: kids and teens.

While working as a school counselor, I had the opportunity to interact with children and teens across all SES backgrounds, tackling problems that ranged from abuse to anxiety to social issues to academic struggles. I truly love to work with this unique population and I am excited to continue help them process their experiences and better understand who they are as individuals. I want to empower tweens and teens, with the skills to combat anxiety and fear, and to handle life transitions with grace and confidence.

Through my work in education, I realized that the mental health concerns affecting our kids and teens is impacted greatly by the family and community that surrounds them. When couples were struggling, that struggle trickled down to their children. In order to be more effective when working with couples, I decided to pursue training from the Gottman Institute, one of the forerunners in Marriage and Couples Therapy. The Gottmans use empirical data to support their system and skills, and I have personally witnessed the benefits that these skills can bring to a relationship (yes, even some of the most broken relationships)! The goal of couples therapy is to increase healthy communication, and to identify your strengths as a couple, while renewing your commitment to tackle issues in a constructive way, that allows your relationship to progress to a place that both parties feel secure and committed.

As a therapist at GT Therapy Group, I am excited to work with both couples who are wanting to strengthen their relationship, and with tweens/teens/young adults who are struggling to find their place in this world! I look forward to meeting you, and supporting you through your growth, transition, and/or transformation!

LoveTip: How to Be Silly (and How to Become a Rockstar Romantic Partner)

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Have you ever witnessed children in play? How easy it is for them to laugh, dance, sing, use silly voices, imagine they are dinosaurs, play dress up with their friends for hours? Children are so natural at play because they lack the restrictions and limitations that get layered on as life happens. But what happens when you grow up? Play becomes so much harder. We have work and find ourselves dealing with relationship and financial issues, and then we have to get the kids to school, soccer practice, ballet class, etc.

Much of the work I do with couples in couples therapy and parents in my parent coaching sessions is focused around learning how to be your true self around your partner, and how to be more spontaneous and silly as a couple. Being silly creates connection which cultivates intimacy, which generates trust. It’s a circular thing, because you have to trust your partner to be silly with them, and you have to feel safe that if you try out a silly or playful activity, they will respond with warmth and care. You could set the stage by speaking with your partner before these activities and say something like, “I love being silly! I think it might make us more connected, will you try out some of these things with me?” (Be brave here! Your inner heart might be saying, “I’m scared he/she won’t respond and he/she will think I’m weird” - but, remember, I’m weird. You’re weird. We’re all weird, and it’s so important to keep trying to stay connected to your partner). See how your partner responds.

10 ways to be silly with your partner:

  1. Spoil your dinner with ice cream. Talk about your favorite ice cream, and try out each other’s favorite.
  2. Buy temporary color hair spray and try out rainbow hair. Surprise each other with a new hairdo!
  3. Talk in a silly voice and make up a secret, inside joke that only the two of you know.
  4. Do artwork together and put it up on your fridge.
  5. Build a blanket fort and drink hot chocolate together.
  6. Make giant bubble solution and blow bubbles together (it’s relaxing!)
  7. Cut snowflakes together and hang them up on the windows in your bedroom.
  8. Play a couples version of Pictionary. Draw things that are special and unique to your relationship history - see if your partner can guess what you are drawing! The sillier the drawing better.
  9. Plan an activity with your partner that feels kid-like: go to the zoo, or climb trees, or to a kid’s movie! It can feel so nice to be reminded of our childhood experiences, and when we do this with our partners, it expands our interpersonal connection in a deep and meaningful way.
  10. Sing a song to your partner, even if you don’t like your voice. Ask them to sing one to you back. Oh, and dance. Dance to your favorite song.

Some things to remember are that not everyone responds to playfulness in the same way, and a lot of people need a bit of time to get comfortable with the outside-the-box activities. Try one activity, and then go onto the next one, if the first one doesn’t work! Give space to your partner if they don’t respond right away. And, don’t forget to say thank you to your partner for experiencing your activity. Verbal appreciation can be very helpful in reinforcing what we want to happen again.

As we move into the new year from this holiday season, it can be stressful to think about expectations related to your relationship and the ever important, “date night.”  But, try sitting down with your partner and taking just 10 minutes together to plan out some playful moments of connection, which don’t have to be limited to one specific night!  I would love to hear about your silliest moments with your partner. Share below!